Yours truly is blogging from Macquarie Uni’s library while trying to study. Managed to study Romans for the coming exams but I am not sure if I am ready for it. Most of the stuff that I have been reading are pretty much the same (sin, the Law, Jews, Gentiles, you know the drill...). I have been trying to study Marriage & Family for the past hour or so but I just couldn’t. Grrrrrrr.......
I realized that I am a “YES” person. I hardly say no to many things in life - friendship, church stuff, social. I wonder if people always expect a yes from me before they even ask me for something. People seem to assume that I would go out with them if there are any outings, dinners, hangouts. But, would people ask me just out of courtesy? If this mentality or theory works in every single situation does that mean in someway or another I am being taken advantage of? Would people expect me to be there without me confirming my attendances? Does that mean people expecting more from me than what I could give?
On another thought: I think I don’t really know how to say ‘No’ That makes people making decisions for me without asking. I struggle saying no especially to people that you are really close with. I would feel bad and selfish.
Come to think of, how do one define selfishness? If a person being forced to do something or go out with some people when they don't feel like it, would it consider as a selfish act if that person says no? Especially if that person is the source of transportation to go places / meetings? Would it be fair if a person is being called a party pooper or an anti-social just coz they feel like staying home? Would it be fair if the person is called selfish when they say no? Perhaps living a lone ranger kinda life is not that bad isn't it? You don't need to worry about anyone calling you names. Guilt free from not driving people around or joining them for some social activities.
Saying 'no' is definitely a skill that would take a lot of confidence and time to master.
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